You hear a lot about body positivity these days, and quotes like ‘love your body, it’s the only place you have to live’ and ‘love the skin you’re in’.
It IS hugely important to love your body! But I think for so many women (and men!!) we don’t quite know how to start if we haven’t had the best relationship with our body 🤔
It took me a long time to be comfortable and HAPPY with my body! And honestly, it’s still a work in progress for me. I still notice everything about myself some days: where rolls over, where straps cut into, where my face feels chubby…it’s like we’ve been conditioned to tear ourselves to pieces every time we look in the mirror! And honestly, we pretty much have 😕
It’s a journey, loving your body, and it’s not going to happen overnight! Wondering how to start loving yourself more? Here’s a few things to try!
1) Be PRESENT in your body!
What do I mean by this? When we’re uncomfortable in or judging our bodies, we often don’t spend time getting to know ourselves, feeling what it’s like to really BE in our bodies!
Start by focusing on your breathing – find a quiet place and focus on feeling your breath going in and out of your nostrils. Start to focus on the feelings in your body. Where is there pain? Where feels good? Start at your toes and visualize traveling up your body and stop to focus on each piece, from your toes to the top of your head! Notice each area, and pour LOVE into every limb, finger, and organ through your mind! Getting into a practice of doing this every day, even just taking a few minutes (we ALL have a few minutes each day!) will start to make such a difference! (My next blog post in a few days is going to be ALL about being more present – stay tuned!)
My new favorite meditation app (that’s FREE mind you!) that I have to share is called “Insight Timer” and it’s ahhhhhmazing! Meditation has so many benefits, including being the best way to learn to be IN your body! (If you’re new to meditation, the free app “1 Giant Mind” is another great resource to help you get started!) Learning to control and tune into your breathing also has so many health benefits – reduce anxiety, improve cardio health, elevate your mood, increase clarity and focus, promote digestion, reduce cravings, sleep better, and plenty more!
3. Shift Your Focus!
From the way your body LOOKS to you, to focusing on HEALTH and how you FEEL! When you focus on trying to make a change in your appearance, this often comes from a place of negativity (not being happy with something about yourself you want to change). But, when you focus on how you want to feel and your overall health, you find a deeper gratification and focus to stay on track with the positive changes you’re trying to make! Feed your body nourishing food so that you always feel your best, and remove the worries of disease and poor health. Exercise to relieve stress and anxiety, and to release endorphins and feel good!
4) Treat/Speak To Yourself the Way You Would Someone You Love!
I stopped speaking to myself in a way that I wouldn’t speak to my future children, my mom, or my best friend! It’s powerful to recognize that the self-hatred is not only unproductive, but that it begins a spiral that takes you further and further away from the things that you want! Our subconscious mind hears the self-talk and responds to it in a similar way, so make sure your self-talk is loving, supportive, nurturing, and forgiving!!
This is where positive affirmations come in and make all the difference! Starting your day with positive “I AM” statements will help you shift your focus to positivity and love for yourself! An example of this may be “I am deserving and worthy of all good things, and accept myself unconditionally.” But create your own for what makes you happy and that you need to hear! It may take some time to believe it, but in time you will re-train your thought process to be more positive.
When a negative thought about yourself enters your head, take a deep breath, release it, and repeat your positive affirmation in its place!
5) Stay Positive & Be Grateful!
Don’t waste time and emotions staring at pictures of perfect bodies and wishing to be one of them. If you need visual inspiration, find photos of you at your best, not someone else at their best.
Learn to release negative thoughts about your body and to focus on the good that it brings you every single day! Rather than fixating on not having lost that five pounds yet, or not fitting into that dress yet, make a daily list of your accomplishments and your gratitude. It’s all about flipping the switch!!
Just like in the rest of life, when we focus on what we don’t have or what we haven’t accomplished, we feel frustrated and ready to give up. Listing your achievements instead puts your focus on what is going right, which motivates you to do more!
I’d love to hear from you if you’re on your own self-love journey! What has been something that’s helped you ❤ or, if you’re new to all of this, what are you looking forward to trying!?
You are amazing. You are unique. You are the only YOU there will ever be. Learn to love yourself, and the rest will follow!
❤ Stephanie Lora